Plus size fashion rules

Now this is not a new subject in the plus size community, but this blog is not only about plus size fashion but also about my road to self acceptance, so here it goes.

I have been toying with the idea of cutting my hair for a while now, like 6 months.
I talked to my hairdresser about getting a bob and whether it will suit me or not, I've had bobs in the past but I was thinner, wayyyy thinner.

He said  that a bob would make my face look rounder.
This is the rule, take a round face add a face framing round haircut and it will look rounder. Dam!
I really wanted a change!
Then I saw Amelia Hart doing it on Instagram, and then Catsuewho and holy molly, they looked fantastic!
So I thought Fuck it, if it looks bad it will grow, I want this haircut, I want a change, fuck the rules, I am doing this.
And I did!
And it looks amazing.

                           

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I Felt like a million bucks, These picture are taken in the parking lot of the hairdressers. I am wearing another Eshakti dress, dress fits super well, but the belts suck ass, they don't stay in place, this one is safety pinned closed. 

 

My bag, is vintage, it belonged to my Grandmother, it holds next to nothing but I love it.

 The Pin is also vintage, given to me by this crazy old woman my mother had as a lodger at one point.

 My shoes are Value Village find, they are BCBG and they are definitely ''party shoes'' as in go to party and sit and drink till you do not feel how uncomfortable they are. But super cute, non?

Oh and my hairdresser? Mathieu smiled the whole time he was doing it, encouraging me, saying this is going to be awesome.

So the point is if you want to take a fashion risk, do it, maybe it turns out bad, maybe it doesn't. But if you want to evolve, you gotta take a chance or else you will never know. Like this... 

...Oh ya, THIS! that's me with a taxidermy fox head clip I saved from ending up in the trash, it's freaky good, like me, and absolutely breaks every rule in the book.  It think I will call him George.....

Picture by Eric

Part 2 I love my big breasts!

 I was pretty discouraged bra shopping last week, so I was very optimistic when I came across a store in NDG called DeBra. I booked an appointment via their email.
Right away I was impressed by how fast they responded, I was expected the next weekend at 2.

I walked into the store and was blown away by the selection, they explained how they where going to do the fitting and I proceeded to try on bras. A Lot of them.


We tried different style styles and cuts, but what I was really looking for was the elusive "sexy balconette bra".
At one point things were jabbing in me, and I thought I would never find the right bra. I started spiraling again in defeat.
Debbie the amazing owner, said don't apologize, we just have not found the right bra for you yet.

Then we tried on the Curvy Kate, I fell in love. No jabbing, cute, supportive, made me feel sexy and BALCONETTE!






 The mystical unicorn bra!



I left there feeling awesome, Eric took some pictures of me in my Eshakti dress, and I felt amazing.

I could see the difference the bra was making in the silhouette of the dress.

This dress is cotton, so super comfy on those hot days, only down side is the snap at the bust that keeps the crossover neckline in place, keeps popping open, so it's the trusty safety pin to the rescue. 


I wanted to punk up the outfit a bit so I opted for this Iron fist clutch that was similar colour to my pearls.

So In the end I conquered my bra demon, Curvy Kate take my money!

A huge thank you to the staff of DeBra and my wonderful husband for the photos and patience.